（2020年7月整理）全新版大学进阶英语综合教程第2册 Unit3 课文翻译.doc

1、学 海 无 涯Why Do Friendships End? By Allison HunterThe only danger in Friendship is that it will end. Henry David Thoreau1 I received an email from a reader who asked, “Why do some friendships end, no matter how much you want them to last?” She referred to having seen the question in one of my articles, Mystery of Friendship. As I wrote in it, I dont think easy answers exist as to how friendships start, why some turn into lifetime ones, and why some end. Although Ive tried answering the first two q

2、uestions in other articles (To Have A Friend and BeA Friend), I still get surprised by friendships that endure and disillusioned by ones that slip away. Even so, Ill try to offer some insights here as to why friendships end.2 My simple answer is that friendships end because the situations friends are in or even the friends themselves change. Others have similar answers. First, the situations friends face may change. The decision to relocate for a new school or job cannot help but affect a friend

3、ship. Likewise, if a friend is in an accident, develops an illness, or loses someone close, these situations cannot help but affect a friendship. Does a friendship need to end because of these changes? No, but itll require adjustments that one or both friends might not be willing to make.3 Second, the friends themselves may change. A significant reason that friendships often end when friends are apart for an extended period of time (for summer camp, college, etc.) is that one or both of the frie

4、nds change. I think it hurts less when both friends change, because then the breakup is more often mutual and so both friends get closure by both deciding to let go and move forward in their lives without each other. What tends to hurt most is when just one friend changes. One friend might change social circles, become involved in new social organizations, start to date, get a pet, or take on some other venture that consumes more time and passion. Again, a friendship can endure these changes, un

5、less one or both of the friends for some reason decide not to invest the time and energy involved in the adjustment period. (For example, one friend might forget the importance of the friendship due to the high of having a new pet or might feel that the change is impossible to overcome when one gets married but the other is still single.) In this situation, breakups may not be mutual and so one or both friends feel betrayed and end up with bitter memories about what was a precious friendship to

6、them.4 There are other reasons why friendships end. For example, as much as two people might want a friendship to survive, oneor both of them might unintentionally neglect it. Friendship is often compared to a flower garden. Well, if flowers dont get exposed regularly enough to sunlight and dont get watered enough, flowers will wither and even die. The same applies to friendship. If week after week passes where plans are made to spend time together but are never honored, perhaps due to taking a

7、friendship for granted, eventually even the closest of friendships may cease to have a reason to exist.5 Conflicts can also cause the end of friendships. If the flower is a fledgling plant, one blow might destroy it just as sometimes relatively young friendships arent strong enough to endure much conflict. Even those amazing close friendships, where friends love us no matter what our faults are, need care when it comes to conflicts. Sure, if a flourishing flower gets stepped on, it might revive

8、on its own. Moreover, if it gets a little extra special care, itll probably bounce back as if it hadnt ever been injured. At the same time, if a flower gets repeatedly trampled on, itll probably eventually break. Especially the friendships that have been around for a long time can endure storms, and even become stronger for them, but most friendships have breaking points.6 Nevertheless, while we can rarely predict at the outset which ones will last, most friendships do enrich us for however shor

9、t or long theyre a part of our lives.为什么友谊会终结？艾利森亨特友谊内在的唯一危险是：友谊将会终结。亨利大卫梭罗1我收到一位读者的电子邮件，她在邮件中问道：“为什么有些友谊不管你多么想维系它却还是会终结？”该读者说她曾在我发表的一篇文章友谊之谜中见到过这个问题。正如我在文章中所说，对于友谊是如何开始的、为什么有些友谊会维系终生、为什么有些友谊会终结这类问题，我认为没有简单的答案。虽然我在别的文章中拥有一个朋友和做一个朋友尝试回答过前两个问题，但是，我仍然对那些经久不衰的友谊感到惊讶，也对那些逝去的友谊感到失望。即便如此，我还是要在本文中对为什么友谊会终结提出我的一些见解。2我的回答很简单,友谊终结是因为朋友处境的改变，或甚至是因朋友自身的变化。其他人也有相似的回答。首先，朋友面临的境遇有可能改变。因进一个新的学校或有一份新的工作而决定搬家，这就不能不影响到友谊。同样，如果朋友出了事故，患了疾病，或失去了亲人，这些情况也不能不影响友谊。然而，基于上述原因，友谊就要终结吗？回答是不，但这就需要作相应调整，然而一方或双方却可能不愿作这样的调整。3其次，朋友自身可能在变。朋友长时间不在一起（如参加夏令营、上大学等）友谊常常会终止的一个重要原因是一方或双方改变了。我认为当朋友双方都改变时，其伤害较轻，因为这时的分手往往是互相的，双方都决定不再交往，从此各奔东西，让友谊终结。当只有一方改变时，往往造成的伤害最重。一方也许换了社交圈子、加入了新的社会组织、开始谈恋爱了、养了一只宠物或从事某个更费时间、更需激情的有风险的事业。当然，友谊是经得起这些变化的，除非一方或双方由于某种原因决定不再在友谊调整期内投入必要的时间和精力。（例如，一方由于养了新宠物而极度兴奋，因而可能忘了友谊的重要性，又或者一方结婚而另一方还是单身时，朋友也许感到这一变化无法克服。）在这种情况下，友谊终止可能不是相互的，所以，一方或双方感到被背叛，最后只留下对一段珍贵友谊的苦涩回忆。4除此以外，友谊终结还有其它原因。例如，尽管双方也许想维系这段友谊，但是一方或双方可能无意间疏忽了它。友谊常被比作花园，如果花儿不能时常晒到阳光和得到足

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