学会一个人生活与自己相处.docx

在生活中似乎一直都有人告诉我们，合作是金就像俗语说的那样“三个臭皮匠顶个诸葛亮”，人越多，力量越大但其实一个人很需要独处的空间，让自己沉静下来，才能发现心底深处真实而自我的声音In life seems to have been told us, cooperation is the gold. As the saying goes that "Two heads are better than one", the more people, the more powerful. But in fact, a person really need the space alone, let himself calm down, to discover the true self heart sound.琳达的成长过程似乎完美地诠释了这一状态而且很多年来都是这样：她读大学的时候，和另外七个非常亲密的闺蜜住在一所房子里当然，就像她预想的一样，那段日子是她一生中最美好的时光无论是白天还是晚上，她总能找到一个朋友讲述自己突然兴起的念头，也能在想哭的时候找到一个肩膀依靠，更不用说晚上睡不着的时候也总会有个朋友陪着她一边吃零食一边看电影。

这一切对于一个二十岁的女孩子来说真的是再美好不过了The process of the growth of Linda seems to be the perfect interpretation of the state. But many years is this: when she read the University, and the other seven very intimate close friend live in a house. Of course, just as she expected, in those days was the best time of her life. Whether it is day or night, she can always find a friend about his sudden whim, can find a shoulder to cry on, not to mention the time of night can't sleep will always have a friend to accompany her to eat snacks while watching the movie. All this for a girl of twenty years old is really better.当大学毕业后，琳达决定继续留在这座城市，而目送着好朋友们一个个离开的时候，她终于垂头丧气地意识到，这是她有生以来第一次将要一个人生活了。

琳达搬进了市中心的一间单身公寓，鼓起勇气告诉自己，她已经做好了迎接被铺天盖地的孤独感所包围的生活When the university after graduation, Linda decided to stay in the city, and watched the good friends leave, she finally become dejected and despondent aware of, this is her first time in all one's born days will be the life of a person. Linda moved into a single apartment downtown, to summon the courage to tell her, she was ready to meet the surrounded by overwhelming loneliness of life.可事情非但没有琳达想象的那么糟糕，她甚至发现自己还爱上了一个人的生活Things are not so bad, Linda thought, she even found himself also fell in love with a person's life.“独居”似乎是一件被普遍认为很糟糕的事情——尤其是由独居带来的孤独感和缺乏安全感。

琳达开玩笑说，如果每当有人问她“这样的大都市里一个人住，你不觉得害怕吗？”她就攒一块钱的话，她就再也不用抱怨每个月得自己承担宽带的费用了但是琳达却觉得，和自己做室友，也有着那么多吸引人的地方"Alone" seems to be a generally considered bad thing -- especially from solitary bring loneliness and lack a sense of security. Linda make fun of say, if someone asked her "cities like living alone, don't you feel afraid?" She would save money, she would not complain every month must bear their own costs of the broadband. But Linda but think, do and his roommate, there are so many attractive places.1. 给自己充电的机会。

1 to recharge the opportunity.我们生活在一个到处都是外向型人的地方，这些人可以通过与他人的交往获得能量和精力；而像琳达这样的内向型人则需要通过安静地独处才能恢复精力和力量而当琳达作为团队的一份子 工作的时候，很难知道自己真正的想法是什么尤其是像人类这样的社会性动物，常常会本能地去模仿他人的看法，而且大多数情况下并不自知We live in a everywhere are outgoing people place, these people can through the interaction with others to gain energy and energy; and Linda like introverts need to quietly alone can restore the energy and power. And when Linda as part of the work team, it is difficult to know their true idea of what. Especially the social animal such as human, often instinctively to imitate others, and in most cases not knowing.当琳达告诉别人，她绝对是个内向的人时，大家都觉得很吃惊。

虽然琳达会和朋友外出，也愿意身边围绕着一群人，但她也需要在一天结束的时候一个人独处，重新聚合体内的能量独居生活让她能够迅速恢复精力，也正因为如此，她才能在第二天继续带着笑容和大家打交道When Linda told the others, she is an introverted person, we all feel very surprised. Although Linda will go out with friends, are willing to around a group of people, but she also needs to be at the end of the day to be alone, to aggregate the energy. Solitary life so that she can quickly restore energy, also because of this, she can continue with a smile and you deal in second days.字号：小|大Font size: small | big能够拥有发现自我的时间。

To have self discovery time.编辑：Joy Zhao 栏目：心灵故事 图片来源：Getty Images 内容来源：悦己女性网 2014 年 2 月 19 日Edit: Joy Zhao column: Soul story photograph: Getty Images source: Yue female network in February 19, 2014在生活中似乎一直都有人告诉我们，合作是金就像俗语说的那样“三个臭皮匠顶个诸葛亮”，人越多，力量越大但其实一个人很需要独处的空间，让自己沉静下来，才能发现心底深处真实而自我的声音In life seems to have been told us, cooperation is the gold. As the saying goes that "Two heads are better than one", the more people, the more powerful. But in fact, a person really need the space alone, let himself calm down, to discover the true self heart sound.2. 能够拥有发现自我的时间。

2 can have self discovery time.就琳达的经验来看，很多很多人都不敢一个人待着但她已经学会了如何享受独处的时光在最初独居的时候，琳达发现自己可以一整天都不开口说话，这简直太奇怪了——有时候她甚至会冲到超级市场买点自己根本不需要的东西，只为了验证一下自己还能对收银员说出“谢谢”之类的字眼但很快她就发现自己并不需要这么做了，因为她开始学会了自言自语Linda's experience, a lot of people are afraid to be alone. But she has learned how to enjoy some alone time. While initially alone, Linda found himself all day not speak, this is too weird -- sometimes even she would rush to the supermarket to buy some you don't need at all, only in order to validate yourself but also on the cashier say "thank you". But she soon found himself does not need to do so, because she started to learn the automatic speaking.在《欲望都市》里有这样一集，凯丽告诉大家一些关于单身的人的行为的小秘密——很多人们只会在独处时发生而绝不会在人前出现的行为。

对琳达来说，就是那些来来回回地像流水账一样跟自己对话有的时候，琳达甚至会发现自己离开家门等电梯的时候还在自言自语当然，每个人都有隐秘的自我，但是那些独居的人常常要比有室友的人花掉更多的 时间去探索自我In the "sex and the city" in a set, Keri tell you about s。