TED英语演讲：脆弱不是懦弱.docx

TED英语演讲：脆弱不是懦弱 　　和脆弱相比，羞耻(shame)，是一个愈加让人以为恐怖的话题实际上光谈论这个话题就足以勾起人的羞耻感下面是xx为大家搜集有关，欢迎借鉴参考　　TED演讲：脆弱不是懦弱，而是衡量勇气最正确的标尺　　演讲者：Brené Brown　　演讲稿　　I'm going to tell you a little bit about my TEDxHouston Talk. I woke up the morning after I gave that talk with the worst vulnerability hangover of my life. And I actually didn't leave my house for about three days.　　The first time I left was to meet a friend for lunch. And when I walked in, she was already at the table. I sat down, and she said, "God, you look like hell." I said, "Thanks. I feel really　I'm not functioning." And she said, "What's going on?" And I said, "I just told 500 people that I became a researcher to avoid vulnerability. And that when being vulnerable emerged from my data, as absolutely essential to wholehearted living, I told these 500 people that I had a breakdown. I had a slide that said 'Breakdown.' At what point did I think that was a good idea?"　　And she said, "I saw your talk livestreamed. It was not really you. It was a little different than what you usually do. But it was great."And I said, "This can't happen. YouTube, they're putting this thing on YouTube. And we're going to be talking about 600, 700 people."　　And she said, "Well, I think it's too late."　　And I said, "Let me ask you something." And she said, "Yeah." I said, "Do you remember when we were in college, really wild and kind of dumb?" She said, "Yeah." I said, "Remember when we'd leave a really bad message on our exboyfriend's answering machine?Then we'd have to break into his dorm room and then erase the tape?"　　And she goes, "Uh... no."　　Of course, the only thing I could say at that point was, "Yeah, me neither. Yeah　me neither."　　And I'm thinking to myself, "Brené, what are you doing? Why did you bring this up? Have you lost your mind? Your sisters would be perfect for this."　　So I looked back up and she said, "Are you really going to try to break in and steal the video before they put it on YouTube?"　　And I said, "I'm just thinking about it a little bit."　　She said, "You're like the worst vulnerability role model ever."　　Then I looked at her and I said something that at the time felt a little dramatic, but ended up being more prophetic than dramatic. "If 500 turns into 1,000 or 2,000, my life is over."　　I had no contingency plan for four million.　　And my life did end when that happened. And maybe the hardest part about my life ending is that I learned something hard about myself, and that was that, as much as I would be frustrated about not being able to get my work out to the world, there was a part of me that was working very hard to engineer staying small, staying right under the radar. But I want to talk about what I've learned.　　There's two things that I've learned in the last year. The first is: vulnerability is not weakness. And that myth is profoundly dangerous.Let me ask you honestly　and I'll give you this warning, I'm trained as a therapist, so I can outwait you uncomfortably　so if you could just raise your hand that would be awesome　how many of you honestly, when you're thinking about doing or saying something vulnerable think, "God, vulnerability is weakness." How many of you think of vulnerability and weakness synonymously? The majority of people. Now let me ask you this question: This past week at TED, how many of you, when you saw vulnerability up here, thought it was pure courage? Vulnerability is not weakness. I define vulnerability as emotional risk, exposure, uncertainty. It fuels our daily lives. And I've come to the belief　this is my 12th year doing this research　that vulnerability is our most accurate measurement of courage　to be vulnerable, to let ourselves be seen, to be honest.　　One of the weird things that's happened is, after the TED explosion, I got a lot of offers to speak all over the country　everyone from schools and parent meetings to Fortune 500 companies. And so many of the calls went like this, "Dr. Brown, we loved your TED talk.We'd like you to come in and speak. We'd appreciate it if you wouldn't mention vulnerability or shame."　　What would you like for me to talk about? There's three big answers. This is mostly, to be honest with you, from the business sector:innovation, creativity and change.　　So let me go on the record and say, vulnerability is the birthplace of innovation, creativity and change.　　To create is to make something that has never existed before. There's nothing more vulnerable than that. Adaptability to change is all about vulnerability.　　The second thing, in addition to really finally understanding the relationship between vulnerability and courage, the second thing I learned, is this: We have to talk about shame. And I'm going to be really honest with you. When I became a "vulnerability researcher"and that became the focus because of the TED talk　and I'm not kidding.　　I'll give you an example. About three months ago, I was in a sporting goods store buying goggles and s。