辩论 same-sex marriage.doc

1. 伦理"Marriage has its own dignity and purpose and its own mission: bringing together male and female so that children can know and be known by, love and be loved by, their own mother and father. Same-sex marriage is unjust because it is founded on an untruth. Same-sex unions are not marriages…it misuses the law to require something that is not true: these unions, however great they are in other ways, are not marriages and nobody should be required by law to treat them as marriages."2. 父母不同意引发家庭悲剧中国：China is a country with long history and traditional ideas, so most people, especially the elderly, can hardly accept same-sex marriage. Most parents cannot accept their children being homosexual, partly because they are affected by the traditional Chinese ideas and partly because they want to have a grandchild. If a homosexual whose parent can not accept it at all, it will inevitably lead to a quarrel. If the quarrel becomes serious, it may even induce a family tragedy.美国：In the United States, many parents will drive away their gay children, cut off the support on the economy, some parents may even resort to violence. 3. 周围：生活压力大，没人理解和祝福 社会歧视，不平等感到受歧视：Although the society is becoming more and more tolerant, lesbian in real life in the society are still isolated, discriminated or browbeaten. A study showed that lesbian felt isolated when they were only 15. This is very harmful to their mental health.自杀、酗酒：Anxiety and depression are the most frequently encountered problems to lesbian. When they have to hide their sexual orientation to family and friends, or be discriminated against moral or religious, they would be particularly depressed. A survey made in 1994 found that more than half of lesbians had had the thought of suicide and 18% had committed suicide. A survey in Shenzhen also showed that 49.5% of lesbian had the thought of suicide or even committed it. Lesbians are also vulnerable to have drinking problems. A survey in Wuhan showed that 93% of lesbians often smoke to relieve their stress because they often feel isolated and depressed.年长后压力大最终选择结婚：In 2008, some scholars made a survey in Shenzhen, found that lesbians may feel less pressure when they are young, but with the growth of the age, there is more and more pressure in marriage and fertility problems. Under pressure, the majority of lesbians will eventually choose marriage, even children.找工作难： A survey of 1295 gay men in Chongqing, Harbin, Changchun and Shenyang showed that 9% of them revealed their sexuality and were fired of forced to quit a job. And 5% felt their sexuality has affected their career.4、孩子 家庭维系>>>领养 血缘 >> Since the ancient times, it has been a dream for almost every family to have children in their home. It is also claimed that only when a woman becomes a mother can she be a really woman, which clearly states the importance of having children in one’s family. Although nowadays there are some DINK family not wanting children, we should not deny the fact that child is the bond of family relationships. For people who pursue same-sex marriage, they cannot have a child their own. You may claim that they can adopt one as their kid. However, blood relationship plays an important role in a family, which cannot be replaced by adoption relationship. (Binds for life is shared responsibility for the children. A small fraction of gay couples may choose to raise children together, but such children are offspring of one partner and an outside contributor. What will keep gay marriages together when individuals tire of each other?)5、人类种族繁衍 Marriage is the reproductive way of the human race. Same-sex marriage prevents people from having their offspring. If our country permits the same-sex marriage, we cannot tell whether it is a way that our nation encourages people not to have children. In the long run, people will get less and less on the result of the same-sex marriage and the influence to the other heterosexual families. （生产力、劳动力）Same-sex marriage leads to the tendency that there will be less kids in our society. We can see a low birthrate and aged tendency of population. Young people will bear much pressure to take care of their parents and gay people will have no people to look after them in their late 80s. You may talk about the country’s welfare, but we cannot only depend on that. Old people with kids sometimes suffer a lot, let alone those without kids and looked down on people. 6、影响小孩的生长发育（被嘲笑、 心理 被培养成同性恋 被剥夺拥有父亲母亲的权益）Even same-sex marriage couples adopt a child and carefully raise him/her up, it may also exert bad influence to the little kids and will harm the kid’s mental health. First of all, most people in this world are still against homosexual people, thus their kids are more likely to be treated unequally and may be laughed by other kids. Also, children may find hard to accept the fact that they have a same-sex parents and even some of them will feel ashamed of this. Thus, a peaceful family relationship cannot last long. Mo。