2024年那些我们在大学学不到的东西.docx

2024年那些我们在大学学不到的东西 那些我们在高校学不到的东西 In far too many classes that I have taught over the last 5 years, I have heard the refrain from students, “This is the first time we are learning this.” Or, even more disturbing, “I wish I had learned this earlier in my college career.” 在我五年多来的教学生涯中，我听到太多次学生的这种心声，他们忍不住想说，“这是我头一次学到这些学问或更让人感到懊恼的声音，“我要是早一点，在高校时期就学到这些学问该多好！” Irsquo;m not a teacher by training or official schooling. Irsquo;m an educator, certainly, but Irsquo;ve learned most of what I know from the school of hard knocks. Yes, I am blessed to have obtained an MBAmdash;but the actionable, and repeatable, ideas I have gained over time have come from making mistakes and trying to figure out how to fix them. Irsquo;ve had only a couple of mentors throughout my career, and more often than not, I have been in situations where I was trying to figure out answers to questions that seemed impossible. 我并不是拥有专业的训练或正式的职业培训的那种正规老师，但却是一个教化工作者，而我大部分的学问是从人生的坎坷之中学习到的。

不错，我很兴奋胜利地拿到了我的MBA学位，但是，我长期积累获得的那些真正具有可行性和可重复性的观念，却来源于不断的犯错和努力订正错误的过程在我目前的整个生涯中，我仅仅遇到屈指可数的几名人生导师，更常出现的状况是，我发觉自己身陷困局，孤立无援，好像在为不行解的问题苦苦寻找解答 What are some of the life lessons I would teach every college studentmdash;and career professionalmdash;if I had the chance? Here are seven of the most important lessons I fervently wish everyone could have the chance to learn: 假如我有机会高校生和参与工作的专业人士讲授学问的话，我会教给他们哪些人生课程？以下就是七条最重要的人生建议，我剧烈希望人人都有机会学到这些宝训： 1.Itrsquo;s a waste of time and energy to find the person, people or organization to “blame” for your troubles. There are so many things in life that arenrsquo;t fair; I teach my kids it is the one four-letter word I never want to hear them utter. Why? Because you canrsquo;t right all of the wrongs, and you wonrsquo;t ever be at peace if you are looking for fair. Does that mean you donrsquo;t try to change things or fix yourself? Of course not! But, more importantly, focus on those things you can control and you can influence. Spend minimal time on those things that are completely out of your control. Instead of blaming and finger-pointing, figure out what you can do to make a difference. 1. 人生一旦遇到麻烦，就干脆想要去找寻可以归咎的个体、他人或者组织，这完全是对时间和精力的奢侈。

人生于世，不公允者，十常八九我教给孩子的一条铁律就是，我绝不想从你们的嘴里听到公允这两个字为什么？因为你不行能总是做到正其不正使其正，而且，假如你在寻求正义的话，你的人生永世不会得到心灵的安静那么，这是否就表示你可以安于现状，安于自己，不对自身和事情做任何变更？当然不是！只是，比这些更重要的事情是，多关注那些在你的限制和影响范围之内的事情至于那些不是你所能限制的事情，能离多远就离多远与其奢侈时间于怨天尤人，不如多想想自己能做些什么，做出变更 2.Communication isnrsquo;t natural and doesnrsquo;t come easy to most people. Yes, we learn to talk at an early age and talking, as well as walking, is a natural function for most people. But talking and communicating are two different things. Communication takes focus and energy. It takes a sincere interest in the other person or people. It requires active and reflective listening. In other words, you need to actually care about others if you ever really want to communicate effectively. 2. 沟通实力既不是出自天生，也不是人人可以轻松驾驭的。

不错，我们的确很早的时候就起先学习讲话，而且讲话也正如走路一样，是人人都具有的自然性质的功能但是，讲话和沟通这二者之间，却天差地别，迥然不同沟通要求专注，消耗精力你对对方或是他人要有真挚的爱好它要求你具有主动主动和适时回应的倾听实力也就是说，假如你真的希望进行有效的沟通的话，那么，你须要的确关切对方 3.Learn how to solve your own problems. Stuck in a rut? Many people are, at some point in their life. Not sure what to do next or how to get somewhere? Itrsquo;s a common occurrence. The question is whether you spend your time lamenting how stuck you are, or you devote your attention to finding a new, creative way out of your problem. Problem-solving skills are a scarcity in most businesses. Be a problem-solver, not a problem-maker. 3.培育解决问题的实力。

人生陷入了瓶颈期？许多人都会有这样的经验，这是人生必经的一个阶段下一步有什么准备，如何让人生的脚步接着向前，对于这些都拿不定办法？这种状况同样司空见惯问题的关键在于，你是停在问题中，顾影自怜，自怨自艾，还是将精力投入到找寻新奇而又有独创性的方法，努力走出泥潭缺憾的是，在许多事务上，人们解决问题的技艺总是少得可怜因此，做一个问题解决者，而不要做问题制造者 4.Become curiousmdash;about yourself, about other people and about the world around you. Donrsquo;t take things at face value or believe everything you hear. Ask “why?” as often as a three-year-old. Be interested in whatrsquo;s underneath any information you hear, or learn. Where is it coming from? Why is it being passed along? Whatrsquo;s the background or intention? This is different from being paranoidmdash;instead, itrsquo;s taking a sincere interest in learning. Life is a schoolhouse for those who want to learn and explore. 4.永葆新奇心mdash;mdash;无论是对你自己，对他人，还是对你四周的世界。

不要肤浅地只看事物的表面现象，轻信你听到的全部事情你要像三岁幼童一样，追问“为什么”对于你听到或是了解到的任何信息，都要打破沙锅问究竟它是从哪来的？为什么会得到散播？它的背景或意图是什么？这种新奇不同于偏执狂，相反，这是一种对于学习的真挚爱好仅仅对于那些有学习和探究愿望的人来说，人生到处皆学问这句话才是真实的 5.Never stop networking or making connections. For many people the world is small; itrsquo;s their family or the place of work they visit each day. There is a world of people out there to connect with, to learn from and to engage with. You donrsquo;t have to become a social butterfly, flitting from one event to another, but itrsquo;s important to have connections and contacts. Keep in touch with people. Be interested in their lives and share information about your。